About The Little Miss Sunshine


Over the Ocean’s Relationship
June 29, 2007, 6:19 am
Filed under: To My Dearest...

Funny, seeing how some of us struggling to keep a relationship, dying to commit and keeping the fire on. Even more frustating when it’s a long distance relationship. Me and a buddy has come to this issue for months, and had finally formulated these… some interesting facts about over the ocean’s relationship :)

1. Well, theoretically I learn how to appreciate every single moment (I got the chance to be) with him.

2.Flying 45 mins flight to see him feels like going for a dream holiday. Plan every single place I wanna visit with him every single day with every single conthing I wanna him to see me fitted in.

3. Suddenly, technology seems to be the saviour of life.

4.But not the lucky handphone shop I usually buy the credit from.
I’m over-credited and broke!

5. Then I try cheaper alternative, praying all nite long, hope will see him in my lala-land.

6. And living in my fantasy.

7. Expert in photoshop and spend hours editing his pictures could help.

8.Then sometimes i feel wanna tell every detail happen in my life when I heard the first ‘hello’

9. Or feel bitter the first second I heard his unfeeling voice on the phone.

10.At the other time I struggle between love and boredom.
Trying to revive the love through memories.

11. And hell ya, will take lots of gingo billoba or watever food suplement for brain (to keep the memories on).

12. Surfing the internet in between office hours to steal some romance tips.

13. Will eat any tasks just to make sure I got something to do. Or else, couldn’t stop thinking of him and get my heart broken for not being there by his side.

14. Then I start seacrhing for songs he likes and grow to like them.

15. And searching all the right songs represent my feeling and listen to them just to entertain myself.

16. Stalking his personal blog or friendster to make sure everything is on the rite track.

17. I hate to say this, but sometimes I think I’m suffer from phobia. (what is he doing now? who is he being with? etc.. etc…)

18. When I see him change, it just feels like the universe is betraying me.

19. I wish I have my own spy network agency.

20. So lazy to sweat small stuffs with him cos credit is expensive leh.

21. Couldn’t get angry with him when I am, cos it’s really a rare chance to get him on the line. Just dont wanna spoil.

22. I’ve been thinking of presents and surprises thou there’s no moment to celebrate.

23. Of course this long distance relationship makes me think over the decision I made or about to make, a thousand times. Especially anything about ‘location’.

24. Good thing is, I become more independent. There’s always thing I thought I couldn’t settle without him, but I actually could make it when he’s not around.

25. Free from jealousy, possesive, and over protection of and from him.

26. More mature in setting ground rules for both party, cos I understand there’s boundary I couldn’t break thru.

27. Distance is no matter. Everything is easy and seems as close just to see him.

28. Realize there’s no such thing as overdetailed description in his life. Hearing the same thing from him over and over again doesn’t kill at all.

29. And there’s no such thing as time differences.

30.Last but not least, I understand what commitment really means.

Care to add some more?

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*YeHa-29.06.07. in collaboration with atanid :)




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haha… nice posting. ckckck surviving long dis… susah bgt y. but i guess u guys r doin fine huh? great then! ;) i really could’t imagine a long dis relationship.. so, postinganny… i’ll keep it 4 future reference heheh ;P

   astarii 06.29.07 @ 7:38 am

oh yeah,.. additional to it, my buddy left this message on my computer last week, “Distance is meant to bring lovers closer.” What do you think?

   Yenny 06.29.07 @ 8:08 pm

hmmm… bisa bener or sebaliknya kali ye. depends on the couple. it’s a statement they gotta prove the truth hehe. emg sih ktny lbh jauh jd lbh ngangenin haha, tp masalah jg pasti banyak bgt. but gw dulu jg pnah long dis jg tp ujung2na putus =P tp kaeny lo bedua bisa ngejalanin long dis dgn lancar ya so far. salut gue hehe ;)

   astarii 06.30.07 @ 7:04 am

Salut dengan postingnya, Yen…haha…sepertinya hampir sempurna mendeskripsikan perasaan kita yang menjalani long distance relationship. Kadang, saya berpikir ketika kita memutuskan untuk menjalani hubungan jarak jauh, kita telah membuat keputusan besar dalam hidup kita. Jujurnya, banyak cobaan yang datang melebihi hubungan jarak dekat yang berusaha mempengaruhi kepercayaan dan prinsip kita akan hubungan ini. Namun, bagi saya yang terpenting adalah percaya akan komitmen yang dibuat oleh kita berdua dan jauhkan segala nonsense and bad thoughts from the mind..Huh..seems like it’s very easy for me to say, rite..haha…Saya juga sering mengalami saat dimana banyak yang mengatakan bahwa long distance relationship sulit berjalan lancar karena jarang bertemu dan komunikasi. Namun, bagi saya, hubungan jarak jauh merupakan sebuah pengalaman untuk lebih menghargai arti sebuah hubungan. Apakah sebuah hubungan hanya sebatas sering bertemu dan komunikasi? Ada juga yang mengatakan padaku apakah saya tidak takut akan hadirnya pihak ketiga dikarenakan kemungkinan untuk selingkuh lebih besar karena kamu sulit mengetahui apa yang dilakukan pasangan di luar? Apakah sebuah hubungan hanya sebatas saya mengetahui apa yang dilakukan oleh pasangan sehingga kemungkinan selingkuhnya menjadi lebih kecil? Bagi saya, sebuah hubungan bukan sekedar sering berkomunikasi dan knowing what my boyfriend do. Yang paling dibutuhkan adalah belajar menghargai dan mempercayai satu sama lain. Walaupun jarak dekat, jika hati tidak dekat dan tidak saling mempercayai akan sangat tidak berarti…

Tentunya rasa rindu akan semakin menyelimuti hati hari demi hari. Ketika mengetahui saat akan bertemu, antusiasme untuk bertemu selalu bergejolak dalam hati. Selalu ingin terlihat sempurna di depannya. Saat bertemu, melihatnya dari jauh datang menghampiri seakan telah menjawab perasaan rindu yang terkumpul selama ini. Sikap grogi sebenarnya mewakili kalimat cinta yang ingin terucapkan setelah sekian lama hanya didengarkan oleh guling tersayang. Setiap kali melewati liburan dengannya, sangat berharap waktu dapat berhenti dan takkan pernah berakhir. Kadang hati terasa tidak tenang seakan takut mimpi indah ini akan musnah. Hal-hal kecil yang muncul juga tidak akan dipersoalkan lagi karena takut akan merusak mimpi indah dan jiwa ini hanya ingin menghargai waktu yang ada dengan sebaik-baiknya.

Senantiasa menantikan kehadiran dirinya walaupun hanya melalui bunyi sms ataupun cahaya kelap-kelip msn. Hati terasa berbunga ketika membaca sms atau msn darinya. Mungkin inilah arti dari kepuasan tersendiri bagi para love birds jarak jauh. Hal-hal yang dianggap sederhana oleh love birds jarak dekat terasa begitu berharga bagi para love birds jarak jauh. Saya belajar banyak untuk pengalaman hubungan jarak jauh….belajar untuk menghargai waktu yang ada, mandiri, bersikap lebih terbuka dan no selfish… 

   Chan 07.14.07 @ 12:41 am

Huahahahaha….. ckckckck… salut-salut….

“Kadang hati terasa tidak tenang seakan takut mimpi indah ini akan musnah.”
-> dasyat banget can… musnah.

Hahaha…. cool,… very honest and insprirational! Anybody else wanna add?

Hahaha.. (couldnt stop laugh my head off, ops…)

   Yenny 07.14.07 @ 12:54 am

hehe, dalam ya can.. panjang kali, wa pikir blog yang baru haha! no comment dech, gak pernah ngalamin, tapi wa rasa komitmen yang baik itu adalah yang berasal dari perlunya dia akan kita, tanpa kita dia tidak berarti apa-apa. dan biasanya itu akan melahirkan sebuah komitmen bagi dia sendiri(btul gak ya?)-_-”

   Tommy 07.14.07 @ 3:06 am

wow….salut banget deh ama kalian yg bisa langgeng menjalani LDR.. chandra ampe bisa sedalem itu….ckckckc….
menurutku sih setiap hubungan mau itu Long distance ato ngga, tetep ada perjuangannya.
Karena biar gimanapun…. menyatukan dua hati dan kepala untuk tetap berada dijalur dan tujuan yang sama,
Belajar untuk menyukai apa yang dia sukai, belajar untuk menjadi dewasa, belajar untuk tidak egois dan menghargai pasangan kita ditengah ke”aku”an kita semuanya tetap ada hambatannya.
Pada akhirnya, bersediakah kita untuk tetap pada komitmen semula?

   irma 07.26.07 @ 1:37 am

wow… nice posts from both yeha and chan anyway…
not meaning to mess up yer party of happiness here, but guess u miss something very important here.. imho, we do change every time.. like it or not, we change .. maybe at this time, at this moment there’s such a feeling called love, crush, or wat-so-eva.. as time goes by, gaining experiences, meeting lot of guys or chicks out there.. there might be something change bout your perspective of LDR or ocean’s relationship.. human tends to be insecure and keeps on pursuing something that can make he/she feels secure..

after i read your posts, i feel funny.. it’s not that i’m underestimating or looking down on you guys but i feel like you are dreaming.. can’t u see that the most important aspect here is not about believing and appreciating each other?? it’s about planning to the future.. u r to judge wat u wanna be in the future and who u wanna spend the rest of your life with.. u got to plan it right now.. that is called commitment..

speaking about commitment, honestly i don’t see both of you having a commitment about your relationship u are into now… yet.. u guys tend to doubt about your future and that’s not commitment and u still don’t have any commitment at all..

as like chan’s posted before said that she wished the world stop spinning.. it’s an act of insecure isnt it? and distance is not a matter?? ow… come on.. maybe it’s quite logic to say it’s nothing if there’s no trust and heart.. but on the other hand.. distance is one of the f-factor that can cause dishonesty and losing heart..

maybe, maybe your relationship u r into right now is still in the early stage where everything seems to be very wonderful and beautiful but don’t forget… reality sucks, reality bites.. u gotta choose what is best for you..

and for those who are in the intermediate level of this LDR .. don’t u ever think of your future? my last question.. if u say u r committed, will u dare risk everything as the cost?? there’s no thing such as equivalent trade in this world.. either path may lead to major regret.. nothing is perfect in this world.. that’s why it is beautiful..

so, be wise..

my 2 cents…
( jangan marah2 yah kalo emank ga sesuai dengan pendapat kalian :p)

   Del 07.27.07 @ 3:46 am



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